謝邀。

我一直,也是一個容易擔憂的孩子。

事情還沒做或者做了一點,總會擔心結果,往往會往最壞的地方思考。例如現在考研,因為學校不合理的安排等等,讓我難以集中注意力。我沒有足夠多的時間來複習,並且感受自己狀態也不太好,所以總是擔心考不上。

個人覺得擔心是正常的,更是人之常情。但是過度的擔心就是無止境的內耗。

備考期間出了幾段小插曲,身體每次出現一些小問題都讓我極度恐慌。

而當我看見學校有一些存在一些缺陷的同學們,依舊努力熱愛生活,我們這些自以為是多麼大的困難,在他們面前根本不值得一提。當我在為鄂下關節紊亂而悲傷時,當我為痔瘡,為頭疼,為感冒等等。。。我看見的是天生獨臂的學姐努力拼搏保研,當我為外貌焦慮,認為自己沒有那麼帥,那麼美的時候,我看見外耳道多毛綜合徵的學弟微笑面對生活。而當我看見真的有同學因為重大疾病躺在病床上動手術時,我才知道一切擔心都是沒有任何意義的。

真正嚴重,致命的東西,擔憂也沒有用,而且你不可能知道它什麼時候會發生。

初中的時候被選做軍訓的國旗隊一份子,當時和旁邊一個兄弟玩的還不錯。到了結訓表演的那一天,他面相和藹的父親來看他匯演,我們聊了一會,覺得叔叔人還挺好。沒想到過了一個多月,就得知他父親半夜猝死的訊息。

上週還給我們做體測的女老師,轉眼間就進了病房。

人生無常。

以前一直喜歡玩卡牌遊戲,每次到了抽卡的時候自己就覺得非常刺激。因為你永遠不知道下一張是什麼。我享受那種意外的驚喜,也為結果的不如意而沮喪。而這彷彿就是人生,我們活著每一天,永遠不知道下一步會發生什麼,計劃趕不上變化,而這也許正是人生的魅力所在。如果我們能明確知道下一步會發生什麼,就像劇本一樣走完這輩子。我想大家也會覺得沒什麼意思。

我為未知而擔憂,同時也為未知而期盼。

此刻離考研還有三十多天,我寫下這些文字。也是告訴我自己,不僅是考研,生活中的每一件小事,我都不用過分擔憂,而是做好自己,不以過高的姿態要求自己,能為成功而喜悅,也能悅納不好的結果。

我們處在人生最美好的時期,只要身體健康快樂,其實就是最大的幸福。

借上週ted的一個小妹妹的演講(部分)來闡明一下生活應有的態度。

So then, if death is the ultimate truth,

what should really matter most in life?

I feel the only thing that truly matters to me is being happy,

and happiness is a choice one makes。

It‘s simply an attitude。

I can either choose to be happy

and try to smile through all of my difficult times,

or I can choose to be miserable and get overwhelmed by it all。

Now it’s not that by being miserable I‘m going to get any better。

So I may as well choose to try and be happy。

Now, all of this doesn’t mean that life is always one big song and dance。

It really isn‘t。

Of course, there are days when I feel extremely down,

where I feel like simply curling up into a ball and just giving up。

But the realization that things could always be much, much worse

always pushes me to get back up on my feet and put a smile on my face。

I could have easily been born

into a family that wasn’t as loving and caring as my own,

so I thank God for the family that I have。

And I know for a fact that there are children out there

who are much less fortunate than I am。

And although I have this disease,

I‘m still glad that I can walk around

and do what I love to do。

So happiness is an attitude。

Happiness is doing what you truly love,

and I feel that happiness can only come from acceptance。

I accept who I am, and I accept where I’m at,

and I accept the challenges that I‘m battling with today。

And I’m even more determined

to make the most of this wonderful gift of life

that God has given me。

Hans Anderson once said,

“Enjoy life。

There‘s plenty of time to be dead。”

So I hope that all of you enjoy your lives

with as much happiness as you can possibly find。

祝願我們每個人都能悅納自己,悅納生活中的一切,並且以足夠的勇氣來面對一切可能的困難。